Conflicts.

again [and I'm being really honest right now], if you were to ask me about relationships, the desire for me to want to be in a relationship with a man is really blurry if at all fading (i.e. no burning desire). I'm not talking about whether I'm "ready" or "not trying to be pursued". But if I can add, perhaps it is because I have no faith in it (though it's not like I'll ever or should obtain 100% assurance to begin with - so let's just aim for reasonable assurance then hahaha such an audit nerd). The thing is, when you have two imperfect and sinful humans beings together, there are conflicts. Not that conflicts are not healthy (a double negative!), but they can be blown out of proportion (e.g. dramas), especially when you are trying to save face, pride, etc. which creates a lot of hurt and unhappiness [this also applies to relationships in general (e.g. family & friends)]. And these conflicts arise when there are miscommunications and misunderstandings in views, values and situations. For me, a key thing is to know how we can handle these conflicts and how we are to resolve these conflicts. What came to mind was Ephesians 4:26-32 (though I would read 17-32). The context of this passage is Paul writing to the Gentiles in Ephesus how they should live their new lives after believing in Christ (which can also be applied to us!). First of all, we should strive to be Christ-like (v.22-24). This means no name-calling or hurting the other person's feelings to save your face, pride, etc. but be more patient and kind with words (yes, the truth hurts but tell the the truth in love!) (v.29, 31-32). Secondly, if you do become angry, do not let the sun go down on your anger (e.g. don't be angry for more than a day) (v. 26). The more you think about what is making you angry, the more bitter you become, and there is also the slight possibility of you thinking of more situations where that person has done wrong to you. It builds and then...cue in the drama. This gives an opportunity to the devil (v.27) to tempt you to sin. Instead, be kind and forgiving to each other (v.32). Why? Because God forgave us through Christ. And we don't even deserve to be forgiven, but God forgave us...so we should also forgive others that have done wrong to us! I know it's hard when you're in a heated conversation/argument and you know all of this...so keep praying and ask God to help, that we will never lose sight of what is important (i.e. not you, your pride, your face, your feelings; but whether your words and actions reflect that of Christ). That being said, yes - relationships should be God-centered & built on Jesus as our rock (foundation) with the focus of glorifying and honouring Him. And read this article! It talks about disagreements that a couple can have (but to me, it can be applied generally to all relationships like family and friends): http://www.bradhambrick.com/what-are-we-fighting-about-guidance-for-confused-couples/